Yesterday, history was made as the Supreme Court ruled that all marriages between all people in the United States be legal, despite their sex. Yes, ladies and gentlemen, I am talking about GAY MARRIAGE. Pride is being celebrated across the land, and since I don't live under a rock or in the backcountry, my people- my family and friends (as far as I know)- are rejoicing. This is 2015, and the world that I live in is more or less enlightened. My family, including my grandparents, aren't intolerant of homosexuality, nor are any of my friends (at least close friends; acquaintances that I don't know very well, not so sure). My personal views (as a Catholic, mind you- one who grew up in Catholic School) on gay marriage is quite simple and out there: who the FUCK can say that gay marriage destroys the sanctity of marriage when the sanctity of marriage in America is a disgusting joke? (I'm married. I love my husband. But hear me out.) You can get married. To someone of the opposite sex. And then cheat on them. And get divorced. But yes, that is ok. Because one has a penis and one has a vagina. Marriage is a joke. There IS NO sanctity of marriage anymore. (I mean, there is. My parents are a beautiful married couple. My in laws too. My grandparents. You get my drift. But some people should NOT be married. Should NEVER be married.)
Anyway.
So yes, we now have the constitutional right to marry whomever we decide to marry. Which rocks because it isn't a sex we love, it happens to be the PERSON we love.
I found this out rather late in the day after I signed into FaceJam and found it bombarded in Rainbow Filtered Profile Pictures (and one of my friends declared that he could get married. at first i was like, did he get engaged?! then i realized...). I wasn't as moved to tears as I was when NY made the decision early on in the game, because for crying out loud, IT IS ABOUT TIME! I was proud to see that a good 90% of my friends had the filter to show their support, but then I started to notice that some didn't. One friend (an ex-gay boyfriend from hs) proclaimed that he didn't need to rainbowize his pic because his rainbow was on the inside, so that's cool. But I started to wonder...do people actually NOT AGREE with this ruling? (I am so naive! I live in such a pretty, magical house of freedom and love where my children don't hate based on sexual preference or color or creed and listen to RENT and HAIR and read "Our Town" out loud with me and my husband knows as much and as little about politics as I do which boils down to mostly superhero politics. I think I'll stay home, please.)
Then I found this. A shared blog post from a friend. Really an old acquaintance. From when I was a young, Catholic school girl. I read it. I was all...Yea, people DON'T AGREE WITH IT.
The lady who shared it didn't bother me. The lady who wrote it? Even she didn't bother me. But the idea that she has this assbackwards, Catholic church mental mentality just really put my mind into a tailspin so I had to respond. So here, here is what I have to say to you Lady!
From a blog written by a very respectful Catholic woman:
Some random thoughts (unpolished, redundant, I've not had breakfast yet) now that gay "marriage" is newly, magically discovered as a Constitutional right:
"marriage". as IF it could really be marriage. I personally think it should be more like gay marriage
-- Pray for the soul of Justice Kennedy. He is a Catholic. He will be accountable for his decision. May the Lord have mercy on his soul.
ew. pray for his soul? you just totally damned a man to hell. who the fuck are YOU to do that?
-- America is and was always an experiment. If we put our hopes and faith in a fallible nation, even one so promising as America, we miss the boat. The only home for us is Christ's Church, which has outlasted every empire and nation and will outlast even the world itself. If you have built your house on the Rock instead of shifting sand, and if you are safe in the Barque of Peter, and not flailing in the stormy waters, then relax and rejoice. Life is good. And Christ's promises stand. (And if you are still in the stormy waters, get in the boat!! There is room for all!)
hmmm...little confused by this one...America is an experiment? This seems like she also might mean we should all be white and of European descent.
-- God called each of us to live in this moment, at this time, in this culture. He did so for a reason. Are you ready to fulfill your baptismal mandate?
Yea Lady! And I am so PROUD that God called me to live in this moment, in this time and in this culture! He did this for a reason- to show that people are all the same, that love can win, and to show children that the world is beautiful
-- So many lost souls. Pray for them.
Oh, another one of these. NOTHING irks me more than these Catholics thinking they are holier than thou and can save your soul. Save your own soul, you hateful, judgmental motherfucker!
-- So many children will suffer, and we will see that fallout in the coming decades. Pray for them.
Boy oh boy. So many children have suffered by being RAPED by your priests. Yet you cover that up. Pray for THAT.
-- Everything that happened today falls under the very capable hands of Divine Providence. Now is the time to step up and really live your faith. If not, then what is your faith for, anyway?
Jesus loves. Not only the straights. Jesus loves all.
-- Don't be afraid. I'm not. God is so good. He knows just what we need and he has given it to us. Find your courage, people!
EXACTLY MY POINT LADY!!!!!! God is SO GOOD. He created us all. You know who created intolerance for homosexuality and made it illegal? Man. Not God.
-- Become a saint. Trust me, it's the only way. It's what will dispel the darkness and it's what will attract people to you, and to the Church, and to Christ Himself. This is about the salvation of souls, not whether or not America will continue to be a comfortable place for us.
Things just got weird. Become a saint? Can you tell me how?
-- America was never the "shining city on the hill", the Church is! We need to get that straight, because I think a lot of American Christians misunderstand that point.
Woah, lady. Stop right there. This might be the worst thing you have ever said. The CHURCH is the what? The WHAT? If you had said "The innocence steali ng, child raping place that is so greedy and rich and seriously could care less about the welfare of others especially if they do not believe in exactly what they say and expect them to do plus they don't like noisy children going there on Sundays" I would say, Right on! But no, no "shining city on the hill." No.
-- Just as with the evil decision of Roe v. Wade, this decision will continue to divide the nation. There can be no healing and unity when natural law and our very natures are dismissed and contradicted. God will not be mocked. Nature will not be mocked. It will be the children of these "unions" who will eventually bring us back to sanity. It will take some decades, but like abortion, the tide will turn back to reality and truth. And if we don't live to see it, so what? This world is passing away. Christ has overcome the world. How can we not be filled with joy?!
So much.
First of all. Yes. It will divide the world. The abortion issue is still a debate, even amongst those who are ProChoice (late vs. early term abortions for instance, who should pay etc). Regardless.
Loving someone, falling in love, that IS nature, and nope, not being mocked anymore.
The children of marriages filled with love and adoration will grow up fine. Or not. Depending, you know, on whether you believe in nature vs. nurture. And their chemistry. Children who grew up with hetero parents who hated each other and fought all the time, they came out fucked up. Or not. Depending on whether you believe in... you get the point. Lady, I work with so many kids who come from such dire backgrounds it would make your head spin. To have 2 loving parents, no matter WHAT their gender, would be like heaven to them. And these little kids, whose parents are in jail, who are strippers, who are just GONE, are doing really, really well. Because someone loves them. One person, maybe more than one, maybe a teacher, a grandmother and grandfather. A family friend. Guess what? It doesn't matter. Kids are resilient in really, really bad circumstances. Having 2 mommys? Not bad circumstances. Not having a home or food? Bad. Get a grip.
And, I'm once again confused...the tides turned? Is abortion illegal? I'm so not getting into this discussion with you, imaginary lady, because this is neither the time nor place, but wtf are you talking about?
-- What to do now? Live your life. Become a saint. Teach your children well (start with this), because they will need to find some firm footing and sense in a crazy, upside-down world. The Church will continue to be a beacon, but even more so now. I praise God for making the line very clear! Now, the choice is more obvious. My overriding thought is "bring it on!" We were made for this, my dear Christians. Why are you afraid?
What to do now? I mean, besides somehow figuring out how to become a saint of course.
The first person I told when I found out was my 11 year old daughter who was quite excited, because I find it necessary to find her some firm footing and sense of morality in this crazy upside-down world. I want her to be a good person, an open minded person, a person who is never ashamed of who she is, of what she feels or what she thinks.
And lady, why are YOU afraid? Have you been watching OITNB? Do YOU find Ruby Rose hot?
-- Finally, if you are truly, profoundly rattled and even devastated by this Court decision, you have put waaaaaaay too much faith in the things of this world. Change course. You will not find peace nor salvation in the things of this world. Turn to Christ, the source of our joy. He Himself asked if He would find any faith in this world upon His return. Well, will He? He will in my house.
If you are truly, profoundly rattled and even devastated by this Court decision, you have to ask yourself...why are you so upset? Is it because now you truly regret your lifestyle decision? Did you marry the wrong person because you were ashamed and, well, it was illegal anyway? No? Well then, it doesn't concern you! So go get a divorce or set yourself on fire and give everyone else a break. God is alive and well in the homes of all people- gay straight bi trans a ALL- and as my father ALWAYS says "Hate your next door neighbor but don't forget to say grace." As in, you Pray so loud, is it so you can't hear your hatred and bigotry?
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