Girls with Autism: Meta Humans?

So I'm reading this article that pops up on my screen about how it is just SO HARD to spot autism in girls. "Girls are often able to mask these symptoms" says Danuta Bulhak-Paterson, a clinical psychologist who wrote a book about girls living with autism, Aspie Girl."They often give good eye contact. They're far better at imitating and often observe before they have a go. So they're real chameleons."

 Except...when they're not. 
 Except when their friend's siblings think that they're rude because they don't make eye contact, or say thank you for the ride. 
Except when they are so literal that when you urge them for that "thank you" they turn to you with sincere confusion and say, right in front of the driver "For what?" 

 Another article concurs with this, stating "Girls have a range of 'camouflaging' behaviors. Possibly because girls are more likely to be encouraged to be well-behaved and socially sensitive, they have a greater awareness of the importance of social rules and conformity, of being sensitive to others, or forming friendship networks. To do this, they realize they need to learn how to imitate expected behavior. This is a common theme among women on the spectrum who describe the exhausting process of continuously monitoring and copying the social interactions that appear instinctive to their 'typical' peers. This has been dubbed the problem of 'hiding in plain sight'." 

 I'm not sure that a child on the spectrum, be it a girl or boy, could understand this. Why would a child, BECAUSE SHE IS FEMALE, suddenly develop the social skills necessary to behave in a typical way, but a boy with autism could not? 

I'm calling bullshit, because my 12 year old girl, who was only recently diagnosed with autism, simply CANNOT. 

 According to Autism Speaks, Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) and autism are both general terms for a group of complex disorders of brain development. These disorders are characterized, in varying degrees, by difficulties in social interaction, verbal and nonverbal communication and repetitive behaviors. 

Flat out, in simple terms, there are varying degrees of abilities for those with autism, hence the "spectrum" if you will, but nowhere, never, does it say, you will be less effected by the social interaction and communication part IF you indeed have a vagina! 

 There are many different people who have autism. Boys, girls, men, women, babies, adults. Some are nonverbal, some are chatty as hell; some need home care, some live 100% independently; some are brilliant, some you would NEVER know were on the spectrum. 

 But if I may be so bold to state with absolute certainty that it has nothing to do with what is in between that person's legs.