30 DAYS OF SELF-COMPASSION | Day 17 (Oh, boy, another) Mantra

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Hey I actually like this one...I feel like I can tweak it a bit...

30 DAYS OF SELF-COMPASSION | Day 16 Reflection pt. 2 (Where I see my improvement and set goals to help me)

If you've been following along, you may have noticed that it is February 7. This challenge in self-care and self-compassion was supposed to be over 30 days. As in the 30 days of January. I am currently working on day 16. So I am about 4 years behind schedule more or less. 
I guess my new goal is to

Ahahaha, no seriously. I know that the wording in this is very "self critic" and very self-deprecating, but I don't want to make excuses (I'm so tired when I get home, I've been crashing until I have to make dinner, then taking a bath and scrolling through Reddit until I'm ready to fall asleep.) No, I am absolutely NOT taking care of me. 
Let's take a moment to focus and reflect on the positive...
What I HAVE been doing since starting this challenge:

1. I have been going to bed after Scarlet falls asleep instead of sitting on the couch until midnight scrolling through Reddit
2. I have been taking less work home with me
3. I have been cooking dinner
4. I have been eating healthy
5. We HAVE played some board games/Jack Box games together...

1. Eat dinner around the table instead of in front of the tv
2. Do some sort of exercise for the sake of the Lord and Savior Jesus Christ
3. Less Reddit and more reading my books
4. LESS TIME IN THE GODDAMN BATH

30 DAYS OF SELF-COMPASSION | Day 16 Reflection pt.1 (Where I realize that I still have no clue...)

As you know, we have been talking about setting boundaries and yesterday's activity challenged you to start saying no to things that do not align with your priorities.
Today, take some time to fully reflect and journal on what you need more of to feel your best, and what you need less of. Often, these two things are related - we need to do less of one thing, to make space for that thing we need more of.
REFLECT: WHAT DO YOU NEED?
These are questions you can journal, reflect on, or talk through with a partner. 

1. What are the activities I need to do every day to feel good in my skin? Well the point of me doing this 30 day challenge is to figure this out! I still have not.
2. What are the activities I need to do every day to feel good in my mind? Listening to music or my audiobook has been helping me decompress on the way home from work...does that count?
3. What are the activities I need to do every day to feel prepared for work? Checking my calendar every morning. Keeping on top of what is due and when. My Things to Do list.
4. What activities do I need to do less of to feel good in my skin? Stop worrying and ruminating about what is happening at school/in the classrooms
5. What activities do I need to do less of to feel good in my mind? I don't know...
6. What activities do I need to do less of to feel prepared for work? I don't know...

Feel empowered by the things you say 'yes' to and the things you say 'no' to.

30 DAYS OF SELF-COMPASSION | Day 15 Activity

ACTIVITY 6: SAY NO
If saying "no" bring up feelings of guilt or even fear, you are not alone. It can be hard to balance serving your community with setting boundaries. I encourage you to remember: Saying "NO" makes more space for the things you need to say "YES" to, such as your non-negotiables from earlier this week.
Saying "no" is also a skill - one that needs to be practiced and exercised regularly so it becomes more natural. 
Remember, this activity isn't about saying "no" to everything, it's about giving you the confidence to distinguish and start to cut back on the things that distract you from your PRIORITIES.
Consider:

• What is one responsibility, habit, or person that conflicts with your current priorities? 
• How can you cut back on that responsibility, person or habit so you have more space to focus on your priorities?

Delegating, scaling down your involvement (as opposed to going cold turkey), or saying no are just a few ways you can cut down involvement from things distracting you from your priorities.

PRACTICE:
Write down just one responsibility, person, or habit that you want to partially or fully say "no" to. Write down exactly how you plan to say "no" and put it into practice TODAY.

Now this is going to be a hard one. I do NOT know how to say no...at work that is. The position I'm in makes it very difficult for me to not do everything I'm asked to do. The biggest issue are the things that come up...I'll be sitting there with my "Things to Do" List, then the phone rings, or a provider/teacher stops by, or I get paged...and with my ADHD brain, I will drop everything I'm doing and do those new things first. 

Instead of saying "no", I really need to "add it to my list" and do it when I get to it- or in order of importance. 

I realize with this particular activity that the reason I am so eager to do whatever and not say no is because I want to be liked, I want to be helpful, I want to (ahem) do things the right way... Releasing control is where this lies in my personal life. 

30 DAYS OF SELF-COMPASSION | Day 14 Mantra

Do you struggle with feeling worthy of self-care? Do you struggle with self-love, or have you ever thought your worth is determined by how much you do? This is the mantra for you, my friend. You are worthy now of your love, your time and so much more

Eh, not really relating to this post...I am overwhelmed, but I don't think I'm not worthy...

This one is more "worthy" of what I'm experiencing...